A mark of the Christian - the Christ-follower, the Christ-way - is whether they can forgive and reinstate. (That is what Jesus saw his father doing in him.) I have rarely met someone who forgives (let alone reinstates people). (Except fools who pretend to "reinstate" by sweeping a misdeed under the rug instead of honestly and judiciously "calling a spade a spade" - dealing with the hurt correctly by addressing it - both parties acknowledging the infraction, then one forgiving the other, and finally both parties remember that they have been forgiven.)